Well well well, it’s that time of year again my friends. Let me suggest 5 resolutions for the New Year that will take you to a new level!!!
I know most of you like to set yourself resolutions, so I wanted to suggest five really great things I think we would all benefit from doing in 2019. Little lifestyle changes which will make a huge difference to your world and the beautiful world that we live in. So let’s go.
1. COMPLAIN LESS
We all love a good moan, and it is easy to find ourselves complaining about stupid things that really do not matter, but we need to wake up, this is just a silly habit we must break. This year, let’s all try and remember how blessed we are. Let’s try and be more grateful, see the positive. Realise that, if you’re reading this from your smartphone, tucked up in bed, with a roof over your head, food in your fridge, and a job to go to, you are one of the most well-off people in the world, and you have opportunities open to you that some people will only ever dream of. So, let’s quit complaining. Awareness is the key to this. A simple technique that I use, which is very effective, is every time I find myself complaining I say “change” out loud and then bless myself for taking action and doing exactly that! I change my thoughts to thoughts of gratitude.
2. BE KINDER TO YOURSELF
Its easy to want to be kind to others, its human nature, but don’t forget to be kind to yourself. Don’t be afraid to put yourself first more often. Not in a selfish way, but in a ‘I need to look after myself today’ kind of way. The better you feel, the more self love, self confidence and contentment you have and feel, the more you have to give to offers. How can you give love to others if you don’t have enough love in you?
If you need some ‘you’ time, you take it. If that means cancelling plans and meditating or reading your favourite book, do it. You don’t have to justify it, you don’t have to explain it. You just have to do it, but you owe it to yourself to be honest, make this time count. Spend it on your soul and not on indulgence or escapism.
Oh, and one more thing, stop being so negative about yourself. Stop looking in the mirror and criticising everything that you see. Stop reinforcing your negative thoughts with negative words, always talking yourself down. Start waking up and telling yourself that you are strong, you are beautiful, you are powerful and you are intelligent. Stand in the mirror everyday and do this with out fail.
3. BE KINDER TO OTHERS
This is something that will start to come easily and naturally when you follow my blogs and guidance of how to love yourself more. As I mentioned before people tend to only judge and criticise others when they are not fully happy and content with themselves. Again the best version of you will be the kindest to others.
A wonderful saying I once heard and now love is “everybody always does their best at that time” and when you really think about it its true. If somebody does something seemingly nasty to you then you are probably thinking this is a strange thing to say. Think about it. If they do something nasty towards you it is because they have little knowledge or maybe they are jealous, either way this is because they are not fully happy and content with themselves, so next time react with empathy rather than hatred. If you do this you will soon find all the haters disappear from your life anyway.
So let’s stop being so quick to judge and to assume things about people. If we all just took a little more time, had a little more patience, a little more understanding, maybe life would be easier. Instead of jumping to conclusions and assuming everything about a person when they inconvenience you, why not just take a step back, give them a smile, and let it go? It will not affect you in a week’s time. It won’t even affect you tomorrow. So trust me when I say, it does not matter. Life is far too short to waste even a second of it being frustrated and angry about superficial things. Let’s all try to relax, and be a bit more forgiving.
4. EDUCATE YOURSELF
You know what blows my mind? When people say they’re bored. So long as you’ve got access to the internet, or books, or PEOPLE, you have access to pretty much all of the information in the world. How can you ever be bored?! You could pick up your phone and learn about Human Psychology, about how mountain ranges are formed, how to speak a new language, how to grow your business, whatever it is that takes your interest. All you have to do is read and research. And it’s totally free. Don’t you think that’s incredible?
Why not take advantage of that this year? Instead of spending your evenings watching TV and scrolling through social media, why not learn something? Why not educate yourself? Leaving school or getting a university degree does not mean that you are ‘done’ with learning. You will never be ‘done’ with learning. There is so much knowledge and room for growth and LIFE out there, and its all available for you, so get reading.
Everything we do in life is always for a reason, sometimes we know the reason and sometimes we don’t, but either way there is a reason. Ultimately the reason is always to gain a feeling of some sort. Most of us want a feeling of happiness and contentment and we often search for this through external triggers like material things, clothes or jewellery, cars or watches, you get the point, but the best way to get this feeling is to give. Its human nature to give and the automatic feeling of joy we get after an act of kindness or giving is wonderful.
Giving can come in many forms it doesn’t always have to be money. A very fulfilling exercise is to give away a percentage of your income to a wonderful cause every month even if it is only very small, however, your generosity does not have to come in the form of money. Time is free, I know time is valuable and we live in fast world but this is no excuse. You have value to offer someone in time and good faith so think about this and how you would feel knowing you have changed a life, just by giving a small amount of your time up.
Let’s make a difference this year. Together, we can do great things. Who’s with me?
Happy New Year,